It’s been a long, hard, emotional, stressful day in my personal life.
Without going into too much detail, my mother has been ill. But the good news is that she is okay now. She is in the clear, the tumor was benign, and she is recovering. Will be recovering for quite awhile but there will be no chemo, no more poking and prodding, no looming black cloud of death.
My mother is the strongest, kindest woman I’ve ever known or will know, and she is my main role model in life. I strive to match the tenacity of her being, day in and day out.
She is my best friend.
I found this post and it hit me hard tonight. Taken from Thought Catalog, written by Robby Degraff.
You will know who your true friends are when the tough things come in to play.
Much like a good man, best friends are hard to find.
Best Friends Have to Be Supportive. Period.
They’re some of the most treasured people in your life after your family. You’ve been laughingly drunk together, on road trips together and at funerals together. You’ve played video games together, worked out together and spent hours under the hood of a car together. You’ve sworn at each other, yelled at each other and hugged each other. They’re an unparalleled huge part of your everyday life. Best friends are different than just regular friends. It’s hard to explain what that signifying difference is, but you’ll know when and who are your true best friends. And when you do, you’ll love them dearly.
Best friends have to be supportive though; regardless of what decision you plan to act on. You could be in the midst of a career change, looking to take on a new job that may have a steep pay cut but a job you’re extremely passionate about. Maybe you’re seeking advice on which television to buy or whether going to grad school is a legitimate decision. You might think you’re making the right decision and that you know what you’re doing. It is after all, your path. But don’t be opposed to any feedback from your best friends. Even if you don’t agree with whatever words come out of their mouths, listen to their perspectives and opinions.
We have to show the friends we consider family, those loyal companions the respect of taking their advice into consideration. That’s mutual, two-way communication that has to exist in a friendship. You know they’d do the same for you. If you have a truly, meaningful relationship, that best friend will nod and support you in whatever decision you decide to make; regardless of whether they think you’re crazy for doing so. We have to accept each other’s differences, because we rely on each other for that continued compassion and help. If they think ending a strong friendship over butted-heads is the thing to do, then they obviously aren’t your best friends.
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